Angie talked about her “less than perfect” childhood which caused her to experience shame, unworthiness in her life. Angie is now working in her “purpose” in helping other birthmothers like herself. She talked about how “Important it is to be “Heard” as a Birthmother and be shown compassion and care. We sometimes see familiar family dysfunctions repeat themselves. Let’s NOT Repeat History but Change History. Angie manages to see the “positive” in various “negative” circumstances. The decision is all up to you.
BMRT - AngieYvonne: [:
So I was just so happy to have as I guess today, Angie, and she's going to talk about her story is going to start per se, where she is and where she grew up with and starting from her childhood and moving forward. So welcome Angie. Hi,
Angie: Yvonne. Thank you so much for having me and doing this podcast. It's so important to get the stories and experiences of birth moms out there to the larger community.e traditional Dettori of the [:
So again, I'm really excited to be
Yvonne: Very good. Very good. I think we were talking about where your territory you're in with that. So we have all kinds of story and history. So we move on with that and talking about, share with us where you grew up and how was your life
Angie: as a child?
Sure. I am a gen X-er and I grew up and, uh, orange county, California.ably shouldn't have married. [:And then the:r was an alcoholic. I always [:
I didn't find out until my early thirties that she had been drinking years before that. So for me, that started putting pieces of the puzzle together. Like I would remember like times where, you know, I was in, I was in the band when I was in elementary school. And after a performance waiting outside a school for, you know, all the parents are coming or caregivers are coming to pick up the kids.olice following her home one [:
How did that affect you? I mean, what impact that cause your advice, you say elementary. So what, 10, 11, 12, that eight.
Angie: have really vivid memories of being a toddler and her, you know, screen, you know, just screaming at me, hit hitting me. Um, those were a lot of my memories and it's, uh, interesting when I've looked back at old photos.g fun. But, um, you know, it [:
Um, you know, I felt unlovable. And of course I thought when, um, any type of outrage, you know, was always my fault because that's also what my mother always told me, you know? Um, and this, um, and I should say if it's triggering for anybody, I apologize who grew up in the. Type of household, but it's, you know, the con you know, some of the things that we've heard, like you, you know, you've ruined my life or, you know, the divorce is your fault or the blame, lots of blame, lots of blame.nk she worked as a secretary [:at being, you know, the early:
Um, that, that challenge of being out of the workforce so long and then, you know, not really being, um, embraced, coming back and just, you know, sexism and misogyny. Yeah.r when you got to be maybe a [:
Angie: No. In fact, um, things became more inf I would think I would say more inflammatory when I was a teenager, because that's when I started having a bit more independence.
Um, some of my own thoughts, some realizations that the way she was treating me. I was not, uh, was not acceptable. It was wrong. I could see from my friends and schoolmates that they didn't have relationships like that with their parents. And, um, yeah, there was also a lot of, um, my mother also, you know, I think she struggled with an undiagnosed eating disorder and she passed on a lot of, uh, body shaming and that shaming to me and put, you know, at eight years old, put me on a diet.And that's something [:
Yvonne: I, did you have a cent of the household you grew up and having an only child that this was normal until you saw other things outside your family?
Angie: You know, so it kind of varied. I remember having, I loved my first grade teacher.
Her name was Mrs. Byrne. I still remember her. She was, so
Yvonne: I remember our first grade teachers. Mine was Mrs. Lee first grade teacher. Yeah.
Angie: Okay. I still wrote, my sixth grade teacher was a Mrs. Lee's. She was fabulous too. Um, but I remember she was so kind and lovely and had such a wonderful demeanor and was so patient.I don't know if there was an [:
Bert doesn't yell at her kids. Like either I knew she was a mom. I knew she was a mommy, but, um, you know, I bet she doesn't yell at them. I bet she doesn't hit her kids. And then I would go, you know, so I'd have these brief blips of clarity or, or a greater self-awareness and then it would, and then just the negative self-talk would seep back in, you know, that I would hear from my mother.
Yvonne: Did you have any friends while you're a teenager of it to develop friendships or was that easy for you?ot. I was bullied. Um, I was [:
Um, because she, it was very much, um, you know, how, how do things look to the outside world? So the outside world, you know, she was very, she was very physically beautiful dressed very well. Um, our home was immaculate for a time being, but, um, if you really, you know, saw behind the doors, it was just dysfunctional chaos.d and I had to change school [:
And that was probably one of the best things for me, because. I had, um, started getting a little bit more outgoing. Um, I learned how to, I, you know, use a little bit of makeup. So I think it was probably feeling a little bit better about myself. Um, and then I met, um, there's my wonderful friend, Kelly. We're still friends to this day, but she was one of the first people that I met at my new school.
And then from there, um, began to develop more friendships and be, be a little bit more outgoing. Um, have a little bit more fun, even though there was, you know, again, chaos at home, um, you know, took as many opportunities that I could to be out of my home to be away.
Yvonne: So what was your best thing you liked about school?had for the most part, some [:
That was part of the issue. Um, I was believe it or not. I was a cheerleader for a couple of years and I had a lot of fun with that.
Yvonne: You stepped out if you stepped out for cheerleader now that I did. Yeah. Yeah.
Angie: Thank you. I really liked, um, I really liked the performance aspect of it. So, so, you know, I like dancing and cheering.und with the football player [:
But, um, that made a couple of years of high school
Yvonne: fun. Okay, good. Good, good. So move on into, when did you have a boyfriend or start relationship all of that at two, you having
Angie: a, your child? Sure. So I, you know, I grew up, you know, and I think there's still a messaging today, but, you know, especially growing up in the seventies, eighties, nineties for a lot of, um, girls and young women, Your, you know, if you don't have a boyfriend, if you're not loved by a boy, you're nothing, you have no meaning.a lot of love at home. So I [:
You're ugly. So I was also constantly hearing messages that you're ugly. You're ugly. You're I believe so for
Yvonne: me, did she hear those same messages when she was growing?
Angie: You know, I, I'm not sure I'm not too. And I could probably talk about this for hours, but she. Um, you know, going back to what I mentioned serve, you know, I didn't, wasn't allowed to have other kids over at home.my father divorced my father [:
I didn't have a relationship with my father. Um, and also didn't know my mother's side of the family. So she, I would hear stories from her about her childhood, where, you know, mirrored a lot of how she treated me. Um, when I was in my early thirties, I had the opportunity to. Meet, uh, one of her siblings who was close in age to her and they had, they had a different recollection that she was the last child.the depression. Right. So I [:
I'm not sure what she heard.
Yvonne: And I, I asked that question because a lot of times that generational dysfunction will move from generation to generation because I'll say this is that people will share or treat others as they have been treated. So as if they don't know any other way, so unless they're shown another way for they, they will do what they know to do.
And so when you said that comment about, she would say, I am pretty or beautiful in your ugly, ah, that came from somewhere. So,ith that, so, you know, look [:
So I was just often getting
Angie: with guys that were, you know, emotionally or physically abusive and thinking, oh, well this is. This is how this is how I deserve to be treated.
Yvonne: Um, so it wasn't out of line or you didn't see it at being out of lie? No, I'm not supposed to be treated this way. Right., I think about eight years. [:
We shouldn't have been in a relationship that long. Um, there was some physical abuse, a lot of emotional abuse. Um, you know, when I look back on my end, you know, there were things that, um, times where I wasn't very kind or times where. You know, I probably instigated some of the situations, um, that still doesn't give that person the right to how he treated me.
Um, but that, you know, again, a lot of chaos, a lot of trauma, um, even when we were breaking up that I often tell people, I said it was like an episode of Jerry Springer. Do you remember that talk show that cheers, no troops were thrown, but it was just when it's one of those things, I look back on my wife and it's like, oh, I'm sick.even for that, even for that [:
So before. I ended that eight year relationship. I started dating someone else at that time. So that, that was not, you know, that was wrong for me to do. And that person, I thought, oh, I've met the love of my life and broke up with the fellow had been with for eight years, um, was then exclusively dating this new fella.re you then? Right. So I was [:
I would take a class or two and, you know, do fairly well, but then maybe, you know, not go back the next quarter. And I was working, I worked in restaurants for a long time. I was a food server. I, um, did a little bit of of management. I probably wasn't very good at it back then, but that's what I did for a long time.
So I had been working at this restaurant for five or six years had, um, just some really fabulous people that worked there, had some great friendships. And, um, you know, during that time I was also without a home because the ex-boyfriend and I had to leave our home. So it was also sort of just couch surfing.I [:
And how was this client, you know,
Yvonne: how do you decide? Um,
Angie: it had been someplace that I, he, he lived there for a bit, um, and it's a beautiful area, you know, lots of recreation. Um, you know, when some of the great things about California as you can be very close to the beach, you'd be, can be close to the mountains, not too far from the desert.a few times, so it was very [:
Why I read really don't think he's good for you, but okay,
Yvonne: you're going to go. Were you able to give him the answer of why?
Angie: Yeah, I would kind of fumble through and I think, you know, they were right, but I think also part of me was like, oh, folks just don't want me to be happy or they don't know the real him.en working there maybe maybe [:things. So I remember I had. [:
It's so interesting how these little things that stick in our memories. Right. And so I put that on the stove and then, you know, we had just moved. So we're still settling in, there's still some boxes and things that I remember, I had some clothes and I was so upset, but I started just like throwing clothes on top of him and he's on the bed, passed out.
And there was, I, you know, not the most healthy, not the most functional, but just being so like, didn't know how to, well, one, I couldn't, there was no reasoning with someone when he threw that drunk he's passed out. Um, but me also not having the language, the words to say, here's why this was so upsetting to me and I can't happen again.udden he grabs me and he is. [:
He put his hands around my neck and I blacked out and I came to, I ran to the bathroom and locked myself in the bathroom at this point, my sandwich, more that grilled cheese that's now that's now burning. The smoke alarms are going off. Um, I still, I still don't to this day, we lived in a small apartment complex and sort of a quiet area.
I still don't know. Did anybody hear any of my neighbors? You know, did, I don't know. I don't know how they could not havehear what was going on with, [:
Angie: uh, just the, the, the, that fight, the yelling, the screaming, and then adding to that, the smoke alarm going off. Right.
Um, and so I remember,
Yvonne: was that a concern that they would have heard all this stuff going on? Why didn't they come to help?
Angie: It's I think at the time, I think it was a mix of both, you know, it's why isn't anybody coming to just check, but also that, that shame and that embarrassment, like, oh, no, like people are gonna think, quote unquote, like I'm crazy.
Or, you know, we're, um, you know, we're we're trouble and
Yvonne: D did con if you go back to your chap.crying. And thinking, oh, oh [:
My, everybody will say, I told you so, oh my God, people were right. I shouldn't have moved here with him. I shouldn't be with him. And, um, yeah, I carried a lot. I've, I've been someone who's had, you know, carried a lot of shame and a lot of secrets, you know, starting from a very young age and, um, just feeling really, really scared, really dejected and not knowing what my next step was going to be.I'm not a psychologist or a [:
And, um, so during this time I'm just trying to, um, be a good girlfriend and not upset him. And, you know, I'm working a really, you know, a low, low paying job. I'm not having any success, you know, finding something that's a bit more stable. He's, he's struggling to find work. Um, we're then struggling to pay rent sometimes struggling to find money for food.just the stress. And then I [:
Oh, it's anxiety. And it took me, it took me a while. It took me a few months before I actually went and took a pregnancy test because I thought, oh, wow. Oh, there's no way I can be pregnant, even though we're not using any birth control.
Yvonne: Was that the denial in your life?
Angie: Absolutely. Absolutely. Okay. Um, I grew up, I grew up in a FA a lot of people, uh, steeped in denial, family.me to access birth control. [:
Everything's everything will be okay. Everything was not okay. Yeah. So when I, you know, finally received the positive pregnancy test, I initially wanted to have an abortion. Um, when I looked at, so when I looked at everything, the abuse, you know, his alcoholism, um, lack of, you know, struggling to pay rent, struggling to have food, my family history, you know, because I, you know, a certain, you know, I kept seeing these cycles of abuse and was certain that I would be, I was terrified.
I'd be like my mother.
Yvonne: Um, I want to talk, you felt as if you would be the same type of mother.Angie: I was terrified of [:
You know, mentally and emotionally, and then also hating, you know, I hated myself, you know, that was another piece of it. Um, that I didn't think I was necessarily capable of, of anything really, you know, of any, any, any, you know, goodness,
Yvonne: of course, to me. Cause she talked about how you realize the effect it had on you on how you retrieved it.
And I think just, just presupposing on whether that would make a difference than, well, I'm going to be different.right. Um, I didn't, I think [:
You're just like your mother. That is not what I wanted to hear.
Yvonne: You know, that's assuming they knew your mother. They did, right?
Angie: Yeah. They had, yeah, they had met her, um, you know, aside from her, she had great fashion sense and I picked that up from her, you know, that I will, I'll take that, but, but I did not want to be like her in any way.ming like this was also, um, [:
Oh, sure, sure. I'll get that for you. And then finally, um, I D I can't recall how I found out, but I learned that you could apply in California. You could apply for Medi-Cal and metal Medi-Cal would cover the cost of an abortion. So I needed to get another positive pregnancy test and start the, you know, the steps to get Medi-Cal so I could have an abortion.
And when I went to, um, I worked, so this is kind of where my journey, well, my journey with planned parenthood started before, but that was the next step. And my, um, relationship with planned parenthood. I went there. I was too far along in my pregnancy. Um, and I remember bursting into tears. I was terrified and said, I I'm going to have to, I can't, I can't do this.o have to place the baby for [:
I said, no, I don't have, I don't have anyone. I don't have anything here. You know, listed out all the struggles we were having and, you know, and that kind of, you know, was the end of that conversation. But, um, I still just remember her being so, so sensitive and kind, and, um, that really stuck with me. You know, I remember that, that, that genuine kindness and, um, concern.
Andullying your side and simply [:
Angie: was, uh, it was so huge. And I w I mean, I wish I don't remember the person's name. You know, I do remember the, the location, the city, but I don't remember her name at all, but, um,
Yvonne: yeah, I bring that up because we talk about here.
Talk about that here on north real talk, the reality. When someone is facing, being unplanned, what do you want to call it? Pregnancy of what to do when they're talking to someone, they need someone to hear this. Absolutely. Is a person not a number. Why you, when, or no, I say no eye contact us. I've had so, but it's like, uh, yes.
Talk to me. What is, what can you. Yeah,orget her. Um, and so I went [:
And he said, okay. And I don't recall him giving really any pushback. And, um, this is back in the day, I didn't have access to internet. This was still the early days of the internet, but I remember pulling out the yellow pages. And for anyone who doesn't know the
Yvonne: then there was a separate yellow pages for the white pages and the yellow pages, teaching, uh, people who are younger than 40 theo uneducated and so ignorant [:
What I saw in the media, you know, which the media does a whore, horrible portrayal of, uh, in general of birth, birth mothers and adoption. And so I went into this just really ignorant. Um, I found an attorney, um, in the same city and I didn't, I didn't, you know, hindsight, again, hindsight, I didn't, I didn't look up other attorneys or speak with other attorneys.e gave me binders binders of [:
And those subsequently became the people that adopted my dog.
Yvonne: Andtoo, that they don't want to [:
I don't want to bother the adoptive parents. So I also had that cause keep in mind too. I think my self esteem is just in the gutter, right? So I'm thinking, oh, you know, oh gosh, they don't want to hear from me because I'm a bad person. So I said, uh, I want photos and letters two times a year, big mistake, definitely not enough and no visits and that they agreed to that.
And, um, again, that is not what I would have done. Okay. How has it
Yvonne: been, did you get the, uh, the pictures twice a year?
Angie: You know, I, I, I really struggled in the, you know, another part of the story. This isn't unusual. I really struggled when I came home from the hospital without my baby about my daughter,nne: empty arm syndrome is a [:
Angie: and no one I, I had, I did not have anyone advocating for me.
I did not have my own representation. Yeah, we use the same attorney because in California, dual representation is still allowed. Um, I do not recommend that everybody and, you know, in any legal transaction, people need to have their own advocates, their own representation. Yes. And no one prepared me that, you know, you hear and it's still, still even happens today.ion. And I don't, this is my [:
But you'll know, knowing that your child is safe, you know, safe. I didn't know my child was safe, but knowing your child is safe and happy, you'll be fine. You'll move on.
Yvonne: You'll move on. You'll move
Angie: on. And so when I got home from the hospital and I think I was just, you know, when you labor, you're in a lot of pain, you know, it's quite painful.
Even with, even, even with medication it's quite painful. And so
Yvonne: bringing life into it's thisdidn't have pain, you know, [:
You know, nothing that I needed to stay in the hospital or have, you know, additional medication to help, you know, manage that pain. But then, so I think I still had sort of maybe the endorphins of like, oh, you know, I'm no longer in physical pain. And so I remember, you know, I stayed overnight in the hospital.nxious child and young adult.[:
Um, and I was completely devastated. And I don't even know if devastated covers it. You know, I was sobbing. Um, I couldn't get off the couch.
Yvonne: I, and we were still
Angie: together. And I remember thinking, I never said it out loud to anybody by, I remember thinking I want, I want to die and I didn't have a plan. I didn't necessarily think I was going to try to end my life, but I remember, uh, you know, sort of praying to, you know, a higher power to please, please just, I don't want to wake up, please.know, the second day in the [:
So you experienced Passy to that?
Yvonne: Yes, that was hard.
Angie: It is etched in my brain and I have never forgotten that I had for many months nightmares, just reoccurring dreams of that image. And even to this day, so my child is now 24, even to this day when I'm I'm under, if I'm under tremendous stress. Or having, you know, an anxious period in my life.m, I will, I will still have [:
Yvonne: So how are you a union with your child? How does it transpire after you had her she's with her adopted parents?
Walk me on that journey since
Angie: then. Sure. So I, uh, received, you continue to receive, uh, twice a year letters and photos. Um, I didn't have any visits, unfortunately. Um, the first year they did send photos every month. I ended up requesting that because I want it, you know, babies changed so, so quickly and I wanted to see her development.nd then when my daughter was [:
And I said wrote back, of course, yes, we'd love, you know, absolutely. We'd love to have that. And, and this was back when, um, you would receive a CD, a disc,
Angie: And so I remember he mailed one and it wouldn't play in my computer, you know, and then I had to, and I even felt like I remember being embarrassed. Like again, like, you know, still these feelings of know. Issues with self-esteem and feeling like I'm a bother and I'm a burden. And I remember being so embarrassed going back and asking, you know, gosh, I know I'm not sure what's wrong with the disc isn't working.And he said, I'll [:
Yvonne: So I still teach you ever see it. I saw a
Angie: tiny, there was like a little tiny blip that played. And I remember it was of my daughter and one of her friends and, and I'm just like hearing like two seconds of her voice was just so incredible though.
But now seeing this, like this tween going from where I had just all these, like, you know, still photos of her development to like, oh, here's this fully formed person, you know, who's, um, you know, about to venture into this new part of her life. Um, So about a year, let's say about a year or so later, her adoptive father reached out to me again and said, um, I'm going to be in California.born in California. That was [:
And so I said, of course, of course, of course, of course. Um, and so she was about 14, 14 and a half at that time. And that was just so I, I probably, I don't have all the words for it, but it was just. Wonderful and beautiful. And I also remember, and her, and I will laugh about this now, but I remember being so anxious so that the plan was to first, I would meet with her and her adoptive father over lunch.nd I remember driving to the [:
And this is really, really exciting. And. And it turns out my, my daughter had shared with me that she was also going through the, oh no, I'm going to throw it the same type of anxiety. So now we can kind of laugh that we were both sort of having these moments of, you know, oh, we're going to vomit yeah.
Yvonne: with my son. And I, it was like, uh, we're meeting in a different place on the midway between us. And I think we were met. It was like, I haven't slept in three days. He said, I haven't eaten, you know? Right. You know that I'm not hearing adoptive mom.od. Good listening. Um, so I [:first things she asked was, [:
So remember in those few seconds, when she said, oh, what can you tell me about, you know, I, my birth father and I had my horrific experiences with him, and I also remembered how my mother would say really horrible things about my father and then turn around and say, and you're just like him. So in that moment, I said, well, here's what I remember.know, I said, he really, he [:
He had a big family and was really, um, really dedicated to them. And I said, he could be really fun and silly, you know, um, And that's,
Yvonne: I, I, I thank you for doing that because as I say, we, we all have components of up down sideways or whatever, but something we have, we have a lot more good than bad. I think everyone, this my opinion, I think everyone comes through to the students or with bringing good things and really putting that in perspective of, as you just, you turned into swimming.
That was awesome to let them know that's maybe where you got that from. Yeah.-hearted attempt to reunite, [:ontact with him since I think:t parenting that first child.[:
So I, you know, I. I have no idea, like what that
Yvonne: was like for him, trauma on both sides, right? Relationship. Where were you needed with your daughter now? It's
Angie: it's going well, it's going well. Um, she is now, uh, she recently graduated from college and she, uh, was living, she went to school in California only, maybe a couple hours away from me.
So it was really, uh, just really wonderful to, you know, every four, six weeks or so, you know, be able to visit with her or, yeah, she'd come up and visit, um, you know, visit my husband and I and our city. And, um, she moved to a different state. And so I was really disappointed that she didn't stay in California, but I'm hoping she'll, she'll come back someday.Um, but she's having a new [:with her own ideas and, um, [:
Yvonne: You getting to hear your child as an
Yes. Did you have any other children? I did not.
Yvonne: same here. Yeah. Yeah.
Angie: Yeah. I went through, um, you know, I went through a stage where I thought I didn't, you know, I didn't want children, but I went, you know, very, I will say I'll back that up. I will say like shortly after I add her, my daughter, I thought, oh, do I want another baby?
And you know, do it, but then thought, no, that that's not the route to go for me. You know, and, um, and I mean like several, like a few months after she was born, which I think, I think a lot of birth moms, you know, have that feeling. Um, and it is, it is wise that I did not cook. And then for a long time thought I didn't want to have children.husband and I had agreed on. [:
Yvonne: Yeah. Well, Angie, you've shared your journey and what a journey that we all have with that.
But as we know here on birth moms real talk, we have a hot topic, so, and which really, we put a word out there, a phrase, and we talk about it realistically, the real talk here. What's your word, but de. Anger anger. Woo
Yvonne: Now that can just go ring around the roses, the world and, and we've got a different perspective of it.
Well, then that's here. What is anger? What does that word do for you? Or just talk about anger?women, girls and women we're [:
And I see that as a way of just silencing people in particular. In particular women and girls and, and definitely, you know, members of the BiPAP community and it's invalidating. And what I've often said when I've talked to, um, not just birth moms, but other people, you know, if you're angry, it's usually because there's been some sort of injustice that's occurred.you be told not to be angry [:
Angie: 100%. Talk about
Angie: Well, that to me is really just, again, a way to silence or, um, control to control me or someone else. Um, you know, I've heard I've been called the angry birth mom before. Um, I've heard other birth moms called that I've heard adoptees called angry, angry , but again, it goes back to if someone.t of how, um, I found my way [:
Um, I stepped into this new role, um, a few months ago. And so again, it's, it's, you know, where there spaces where people are. Um, you know, are not having, you know, proper factual information, um, or given the ability to make decisions for themselves. Um, when people have that taken away, that's very upsetting to me.edge and other birth mother. [:
So still very, very, very new. Very raw grieving. Um, I remember her curled up on the floor sobbing and saying, I don't understand why I'm still sad. I was told it would get better. Why, why am I so sad? Why am I depressed? Yeah. And I remember this birth mom was maybe just a couple years older than my daughter.is young woman and thinking, [:
Like going back for decades, you know, you think of, you know, the women from the baby scoop era, like the same thing you'll move on. You'll be fine. And no, this is a lifelong,
Yvonne: they were alive. They were lying. They were locked.
Angie: So when someone lies to you or will purposely withholds information, there is a right.
There is a right. Absolute right to be angry about that. Justified
Yvonne: anger, justified anger. And the thing of it, as we say it may, it makes me, that's why I asked you, do you get angry when people tell you not to get angry and I would turn my head, what do you think? I mean, really? What do you expect me to do?hat are you saying? Yeah. So [:anization, um, was founded in:
So that's very, it's very exciting. Thank you. Thank
Angie: Thank you. It's um, it's an honor, uh, that I do not take lightly. And right now our board of directors is 50% birth moms and we'll be, um, electing some new members very soon. So we're actually anticipating that number of birth moms on the board to go up a little bit more.clients on the board and we [:not intersect with adoption.[:
And it they're really, really transformative, you know, for, for myself and for many others, that's often the first time they're meeting another birth mom for some that may be the first time they've shared their child's name with other people. That may be the only time of year that they feel they can openly talk about their child or children.
Right. And that's, so that, that is so huge. And it's also heartbreaking that for some, they feel like only, you know, this one time a year that I can, what I can get from this retreat that that's where I have that space to do. So. Um, unfortunately with COVID, you know, and heard this from so many, um, everything has been moved to the virtual platform and we're really hoping crossing our fingers that in the fall.[:help them with their school [:
Um, as well as if someone needs, you know, someone gets a new, a new job and maybe it's a job where they're required to buy certain items of clothing for the uniform. Like we can help with that because I know I've been in that position. You know, I said, I worked in restaurants for a long time where you got the job, but now I need to buy these pants and shoes that I don't have money for, you know?
Yvonne: Yeah. And what I'm hearing and know that empower Alliance offers that support and that's what's needed on all different facets, all different facets. When someone knows they got there. I like to say they have a village behind them when they may occur. That's where that, that positiveness to say, Hey, there's someone I can call.t has. Thank you so much for [:
And you broke through, you broke through. So congratulate you pat yourself on the back from when style have come to where you are today, where you are today. Thank you so much. You've been listening into birth moms, real talk. I'm your host, Yvonne rivers. And we've been so happy to have Angie on today.f you'd like to come on, our [:
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